Finding your Self-Worth and Life Satisfaction Through God’s Promises

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People are often unhappy or disappointed in life because they measure their self-worth or even value of life itself by the wrong means. The Bible offers a way of seeing one’s self in life in a way that adds never diminishing value.

Don’t measure by the world’s yardstick

“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what is the good, pleasing, and perfect will of God.”

–Romans 12:2

Some people measure their own self-worth through things such as their appearance, their career, their social status or popularity, their level of success or material belongings, or a number of other means.

It’s easy to get caught up in the competitive world view which makes us look to false standards by which to measure ourselves. Don’t allow yourself to be steered by such peer pressure because such people themselves are being influenced by the wrong viewpoint.

“The natural person does not accept the things of the Spirit of God, for they are folly to him, and he is not able to understand them because they are spiritually discerned.”

–1 Corinthians 2:14

Rather than satisfying the ego, we need to ignore it and humble ourselves. Seek to have a loving attitude toward all.

“Finally, all of you, have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind.”

–1 Peter 3:8

Declining happiness in the US

Every year, The World Happiness Report measures subjective well-being based upon three main indicators: Life evaluations, positive emotions, and negative emotions. Year after year, the United States has seen itself steadily drop on this global happiness scale. In 2021, the US fell further down the list to #18.

Being one of the most advanced and wealthiest countries in the world, with an extraordinarily high standard of living, why are people becoming more and more unhappy in the US?

One answer may be expectations. Americans live in a materialistic, capitalist society that puts more value on external things, as well as appearances. But there is more joy to be found in giving and helping rather than living with a belief system such as “the one with the most toys wins” or having the most adoration.

“I perceived that there is nothing better for them than to be joyful and to do good as long as they live;”

–Ecclesiastes 3:12

True happiness comes through universal love, including loving yourself, and appreciating that you have been created, perfectly, as you were meant to be.

What you are not

“There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.”

– Galatians 3:28

Having the wrong expectations sets one up for disappointment. Far too often, people focus on the things they want to be and are not.

Here’s what you are not (and that’s okay):
  • Your job.
  • Your appearance or your body.
  • Your wealth or your lack of it.
  • Your popularity or lack of it.
  • Your race or ethnicity.
  • Your gender.
  • And the list goes on…

What the Bible says you are

“and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness.”

–Ephesians 4:23-24

The Bible says you are created in the image of God, which is a spirit. You are a non-physical eternal soul temporarily housed in a physical body. While you have the appearance of a race or ethnicity, again, you are a soul. You are also not a gender or a sex (angels and God aren’t either). These are only temporary attributes of the physical realm.

Focus on your spiritual self

Your focus should be on your spiritual self. This is the side that possesses consciousness, something mysterious that science knows is there – but can’t detect. It is your one big clue that you are a soul.

Besides consciousness, you also have a conscience. This is an internal radar God gave everyone to know right from wrong, regardless of Scripture.

Studies have shown that all humans possess an inner spiritual side that seems to know there is something more than this system – a creator, a God. Even the most primitive and isolated tribes possess these feelings. It is an innate part of human nature. We’ve yet tried to reason it away with science but it is inborn.

Preparing for your “second life”

The scientific law of conservation of energy, known as entropy, states that “energy can neither be created or destroyed – it can only be converted from one form of energy to another.”

The Bible has said this all along. Your energy which powers your consciousness and soul transcends this earthly plane into either the heavenly realm or Hell after this life.

Jesus taught that this “second life” is the most important one and what you should focus on. Don’t focus on the temporary, physical things of this earthly existence. Focus on “spiritual treasure” by developing the right loving heart and mindset.

“Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal, but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.”

–Matthew 6:19-21