Dating as a Christian is challenging. The first goal is finding someone who shares your values and commitment to the Lord. Here are some Bible verses to help reinforce your discernment in finding the right person to date.
1. Finding a fellow Christian
“Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?”
–2 Corinthians 6:14
A “yoke” was a wooden crosspiece that was fastened over the necks of two animals, to keep them together, that was then attached to the plow or the cart they were to pull.
The analogy in this Bible verse is that we should not attach ourselves to those who won’t share our belief in God in Jesus Christ. If they are unwilling to accept Christ, they will be a constant obstacle toward living a faith-based life.
2. Choose the company you keep wisely
“Do not be deceived: ‘Bad company ruins good morals.'”
–1 Corinthians 15:33
Like #1 above, this verse also points out the problem of being connected to unbelievers. However, this verse goes further. Even if someone claims to be a believer, and wants to be, make sure their actions speak louder than their words.
Their behavior will show whether they truly conduct themselves as a Christian or not. And if not, their bad behavior can influence your good habits.
The bottom line: Be discerning and don’t settle for less than what you know is right.
3. Seek spiritual growth
“So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.”
–2 Timothy 2:22
Sooner or later, we all have to grow up. And that means putting our focus on what is truly important in life.
When we were infants, we needed milk because we were not ready for solid food, (1 Corinthians 3:2; Hebrews 5:12; 1 Peter 2:2), but as we mature our diet changes.
This is an analogy for our lives and spiritual growth. As we mature as Christians, we need to pursue our bond with the Lord. This needs to be paramount in the life we build for ourselves.
This is the first consideration when dating and seeking a mate.
4. Understanding what love is
“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”
– 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
You first need to understand what love is before you can seek it effectively. Otherwise, you’ll make the wrong choice because she won’t recognize love when you see it.
Many people are brought together by physical attraction. But physical appearance changes over time. What endures is real love and a person’s character.
You want to find someone who will truly stick by you in sickness and in health, till death do you part.
As previously mentioned in #2 above, a person reveals themselves through their words and their actions. This verse speaks to what words and actions reveal love.
“Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.”
–1 Corinthians 6:18
Besides being a sin, sex before marriage can bring numerous problems. Becoming pregnant can lead to an unstable family, potentially creating psychological harm for the children.
Sexually transmitted diseases are another concern.
Abstaining from sex until one has chosen the right life partner was God’s plan to ensure a lasting family bond.